Do You Know How Your Kids Really Interact With Each Other?

There is a saying that charity starts at home. This is true of kindness, literacy, manners, and a whole variety of important virtues. The same can be said regarding practices for online decorum and social interaction. How are your kids interacting with their siblings? Just as children face the dangers of being bullied at school, kids are also at risk of either bullying their siblings or being bullied by their siblings. Once an act of bullying takes place inside the home, then it is important to remedy the situation for everyone involved. Also, if a child is bullying their siblings or being bullied by a sibling, then there is always a chance that that the negative interactions could also occur online, as well as off-line.

In the crazy tech-monitoring world, parents, you might be concerned that you should monitor their text message conversations. Yet, is this a violation of trust? We counsel our parents that you are the parent and not the friend, you are there to offer guidance and protection. The My Social Sitter software allows for trust to be built with a set, customize and protect when there is a problem, so there is not a need to constantly check their phone – you know if anything that isn’t normal or on the “up’n’up” going on without looking at their phone.

It is widely believed that siblings have their own unique communication styles that differ from the ways in which they communicate with teachers, parents, and peers. Regardless, there is still no excuse for any harmful words to be spoken among children.

Some believe it is perfectly fine for siblings to bully each other. However, think of it in a new concept. If your child spoke to a classmate in the same way they speak to their siblings, would you tolerate it? Would you be fine if another child spoke to your kids the way they speak to each other? Biological relation is no excuse for mistreatment among children. It is true that kids will say things as they grow. Again, it is always important to intervene when necessary and cautiously advise kids to speak to each other in kinder terms.

Constructive criticism, when it provides an objective critique that can be fixed, is a way for children to help each other improve. However, baseless insults that are not fixated in any facts are rude, and no child should have to worry about what their siblings might say to them. All in all, bullying is a problem that can be prevented, discussed and identified. At the end of the day, learning to fix behaviors starts at home.

Do You Know How Your Kids Really Interact With Each Other?

Bullying- By Christina Rizzo

In the past few years bullying in the Elementary schools has gone up by a drastic amount. Nine out of 10 elementary students have been bullied by their peers, according to a simple questionnaire developed by researchers at Lucile Packard Children’s Hospital and the Stanford University School of Medicine. It is sad to hear that at such a young age children have no problem hurting one another, it might not always be physically but it can also be mentally. There are still scars, yes we cannot see them but they are there.

Since this is occurring at such a young age it can affect the child in the future, it can make them less sociable, scared to go to school, not wanting to leave their mothers sides and also can make them depressed. Bullying is starting at a younger age because of social media and technology. More parents are allowing their younger children to have cellphones, ipads, twitter, Facebook, etc. when these things are meant for young adults. To have a Facebook when I was growing up you needed to be 18+, now I see children on there who are 10 years old. It is crazy how young these children are and already know what all this social media is.

Because children are on adult websites already at such a young age means that parents need to keep an eye out. Most parents do not have their children’s passwords to their accounts. This can be very unsafe, why you ask? Because many children get bullied on social media, it could be through instant messaging, written on a picture or even through facetime. I have been babysitting since I was 13 years old, I am 20 now. For the past five years I’ve babysat the same family, I’ve watched these children go form babies to pre teens. I’ve heard all the drama, I’ve seen the bullying and I’ve helped. Their mother had no idea that none of this was going on in their lives. Their mother had no idea that her children had Instagram or Facebook. That’s what worried me, the fact that their own mother had no idea that her kids were using the Internet, even better getting bullied on the Internet. The social sitter is the APP this mother needs to invest in for her children because then she can see what her children are sending out to others and what others are posting on her children’s social media.

If more Mothers across America know about The Social Sitter we can stop so much Elementary school bullying that is occurring. We can save lives and also at the same time make children’s futures brighter. Help us show Mothers across America what they can be doing to help their children, peers and also themselves.

Bullying- By Christina Rizzo

Athlete Maturity And Social Media

Technology and communication have been rapidly advancing at a state that can be quite overwhelming. Adults can get over whelmed with the connectivity of the Internet if they didn’t grow up with the tools to access it. I’m in my twenties myself and even I have trouble keeping up with what’s popular and what do people use to share ideas and socialize over the Internet.

But, what is alarming is even though young adults have essentially adapted this technology as our own, we don’t necessarily mature with it as we grow with age. For a shining example of this immaturity, we don’t have to look far. We just have to look at our favorite athletes on social media. The majority of athletes who play in the professional level are young and may of course have a lot growing up to do, but it is alarming how some of the players seem like they have no filter with their online presence.

An example of this type of debauchery actually didn’t happen to long ago in the case of D’Angelo Russell and Nick Young. For a short synopsis of what happened, essentially Russell caught Young talking about cheating on his celebrity girlfriend, Iggy Azalea. For some reason, Russell decided to film Young and sent the video to Twitter. They were friends on the same team at the time, so why he would do this is puzzling in more way than one, but either way this is a clear case of the immaturity we so too often see when athletes use social media.

The obvious thing that comes to mind is that Russell is still relatively young, so do we blame his immaturity on his age? Teens who grew up with social media may be desensitized to outlandish behavior because of the easy exposure of viral videos on the Internet, so when a particular subset of people who aren’t familiar with these cultural age differences, they may be shocked and alarmed in a negative light.

But there also comes the question of whether society as a whole is immature in general when it comes to social media. Older athletes, like Curt Schilling, have said outlandish things that have made people of all ages and demographics uncomfortable with the things he posts on social media. Some athletes also develop a persona that makes them feel nigh invincible and think their opinion is “the opinion.”

Either way, we as a whole need to understand that just because we are behind a screen, our words matter regardless if there said in person or on social media.

Athlete Maturity And Social Media

The “NEW MEAN” Generation – By Susan Wind from Parents Know More

Mean can be defined as cruel, spiteful or malicious. Social media has brought on the new “mean” for our children’s generation. Why you may ask? People seem to feel more bold and confident putting their feelings out on a computer, text, email versus confronting the person face to face. Revenge is another ugly word that has come into play with this “mean” term. We hear terms like slut shaming, fat shaming, and whatever else shaming we can think of to destroy someone’s reputation. What ever happened to the old saying, if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it? That is a joke today!

So how do people become mean? Were they born mean or did they learn to become mean? Most psychologists would agree that mean behavior is a “learned behavior”. Children model this after their parents sometimes or are influenced by peers (usually starting in school). People tend to throw the word “bully” out there very loosely but keep in mind there are different requirements of being a mean kid or a bully. There are more MEAN kids than bullies.

I read an article on line called, “if my kid is being an a##hole, I want you to tell me”. While I respected this mother’s thought process and how sometimes parents do not have any idea what their kid is doing, I would have to disagree with this philosophy. Let’s review. Once you tell a mother/father that their precious child is doing something wrong, hurtful, etc., the initial reaction is to defend and attack! That parent will come right back at you with “well your kid did this, said that, etc.” It is rare that a parent today will side with the other parent and take accountability for their child’s actions.

What happened?

When I was growing up, it was a different world. If a teacher called the house to tell a parent that their child was in trouble, the child would hide! If a neighbor came a knocking on the door to tell a parent what a child did, that child would run! Parents believed one another! Parents worked together to correct the behaviors! Parents held their kids responsible for their actions! Parents even apologized on their child’s behalf! Remember the saying, “It takes a village to raise a child”? Not today!

Let’s go back to the “new mean”. I am approached by people all of the time about my program, parents kNOwmore. Everyone has a story to share. Everyone’s life has been impacted somehow by social media (positive and negative). The main theme that keeps coming up is the inappropriate comments, actions, behaviors by our young people today (AKA MEAN). If a parent is not following their child on social media, how would they know if that kid did something mean? We all want to believe that our children would NEVER do this but let’s get real parents, they do it! Can you blame our kids when a lot of their friends are mean on social media with no repercussions? Look at the political race for 2016 today (mean behaviors on the news daily). Look at movie stars today having “tweet wars” with each other and love to put each other down? This is the new generation we have accepted today!

What can you do?

You can only control what happens in your family – what I was told (to some degree). You cannot control other children. Parents are struggling with this every day. School administrators are spending hundreds of countless hours a year putting out fires because of people being “mean” on social media. People ask me, what is the solution? Schools need to revisit their social media policies (fine tune them). Many of these current policies are not conducive to the social media world our children are living in today. Cybercrimes are also not addressed in these policies (many of which kids are committing).

Parents need to monitor their child’s accounts as well. Do you follow your children on their social media accounts? Kids need to know whatever they put out there in print, they should be proud of it and own up to it. Coaches, teachers, pastors, friends, family are following kids all of the time. What is wrong with parents following them too? Before defending your kid (which is the common theme today), know the facts! It is ok to monitor your kids on social media! There are many apps today that allow you to do this! My Social Sitter is a new app that I just love! It can be used currently for text messaging and twitter!  My Social Sitter provides an instant filter before any social media message goes public.  You can see in detail how this works at There are thousands of key words that are “filtered” including acronyms (remember kids like to hide their messages with abbreviations).  You (as their parent) can also add more key words as you wish with this program! If a child/teenager posts something that is inappropriate, the message will be flagged and rejected. This allows kids to go back and review what they tried to send and possibly think of a better option that is positive vs negative. The parents are also notified via email to see what their child try to text/post. Kids can earn “tokens” to reward them for their positive posts, which can be later cashed in for fun gifts!

Before you want to defend your child, remember you must know the facts and build a solid case. You can get to the bottom of the issue and determine who is being mean by monitoring your child. Hopefully it is not your child that is a MEAN kid!

The “NEW MEAN” Generation – By Susan Wind from Parents Know More

Dangerous Organizations Exploiting Social Media

Social life for children in this and future upcoming generations has become more problematic than it used to. Due to the interconnectivity of the Internet bringing individuals closer together on modern platforms, such as Twitter and Facebook, relationships have become rapid fire and instant. While this is beneficial to society in spreading news and social awareness, there are some pitfalls that have emerged for children who have access to the Internet. Children are curious by nature and the way social media markets certain groups is by targeting and exploiting certain interests that will some people want to click on ad bait webpages. What if a child stumbles onto a web page that specially advocates their harmful message to young people? Will they know what to do?

Terrorist organization cells like ISIS have took notice to current trends in our society and have made a great interest in getting the web presence across through platforms like Twitter and Facebook. ISIS uses sleek and eye-catching designs specifically to have the modern youth identify and associate with their group. This is done through a well disguised marketing campaign employed by ISIS that includes videos highly stylized with recruitment techniques that make the viewer believe that by joining ISIS a sense of community with a sense of purpose can be achieved if you join them. According to an article by The Atlantic, there is even an app for the savvy tech user that can be downloaded and is promoted by top ISIS supporters.

Due to the easily accessible way harmful organizations are targeting the youth, how can the modern parent prevent their child from getting involved with this groups?

Track your child’s online presence:

Surely it can be an arduous task in tracking where your child goes on social media, but My Social Sitter can quickly help remedy the cautious parent.


Dangerous Organizations Exploiting Social Media

One Step Forward, Two Quick Steps Back

Online connectivity comes with many pros. Communication through long distances are practically instantaneous, allowing friends and family to stay in touch with each other through social media. But with every new advancement in technology we make, a part of our modern culture gets adversely effected in ways that we can’t predict until it happens.

Teens growing up now have the advantage of talking to theirs friends anytime they want through video calls, texts, and sites like Facebook, but that prompt connection could be used in ways that are harmful to the growing teenager. Gossip, whether true or false, can be posted online at a moments notice. Instead of just a few people learning of a particular rumor, anyone with Internet access who doesn’t personally know the involved parties can see the rumor and spread it for others too see. If it is a particular rumor that catches people’s attention, it can go viral and be seen by millions. Of course this is a worst case scenario, so I’ll go into describe a more common instance of misuse of social media.

Hypothetically let’s say a female teenager misses a week of school because she received a vicious case of a viral infection. A rival takes advantage of her absence and spreads a rumor that she is pregnant on social media. People comment and speculate, but the rumor has been spread and the damage has already been dealt. All of her friends ask her if it’s true and she has to constantly refute their questions.

The speed at which rumors are spread doubly apply to how fast someone can get emotionally scarred online. We need to educate teens on basic online ethics to make the social media environment safer to socialize in.

One Step Forward, Two Quick Steps Back

Bridging Your Children’s Communications Gap in a Digital Era By Jane Genova


In 1995, psychologist Daniel Goleman stunned parents. He told them their children’s success in work and in life depended more on their Emotional Intelligence (EI) than their Cognitive IQ.

A major part of EI is communications know-how. The immediate challenge for your children is this: Their reliance on digital devices can limit their ability to listen, have a face-to-face conversation, and read non-verbal cues. Here are three tips how you can help them bridge that gap.

Know You Are Setting the Example. From the time we exit the womb, we learn how to navigate the world by imitation. That means that your children are internalizing how to interact by observing you. Therefore, no matter what you might be feeling at the time or how tired you are, the burden is on you to set the example. That’s the model they will follow in formal situations, ranging from school to applying for their first job.

Make Listening Fun. Part of the epidemic of short attention spans is the lost art of listening. Many parents complain children are too consumed in their little worlds to even hear, “It’s dinner time” or “The school bus is here.” One way to break through this compulsion is to make listening a game. Material for this ranges from commercial films to simply overhearing conversations. Have contests about identifying the messaging, who’s getting it and who’s missing it. Your children can post on social networks or blogs their ah-ha moments. They can also publish an e-book. Explain how this could lead to fame.

Unleash the Dramatic. It’s by acting out all the wrong facial gestures and body language that your children will get down cold what not to do. Organize neighborhood mini theatrical productions featuring these lessons. Post the photos and videos on social networks. Who knows, maybe a talent scout will spot your children’s talent.

In the process of passing on superior communications skills to children, you are bound to raise the bar for your own. Do not be surprised if good things start happening. Those could be a promotion in work or being elected to head a parents’ organization.

Jane Genova (

Bridging Your Children’s Communications Gap in a Digital Era By Jane Genova